It’s still raining here, and I finally changed the time setting at High Counties so my life will be recorded in the time that its lived and not 14 hours later. Jones and I just had a lovely breakfast of yogurt, strawberries, banana bread, and coffee (just mom), and now he’s taking his toys and placing them in hideaways in our kitchen or ‘big’ room (what else do you call it when it’s living/dining combined?). I’m trying to menu plan: I’d like to make some salmon, but the last time I bought it, it was salted.. yes, salted, and awful. I guess we won’t have salmon. But as of tomorrow, our language study commences and I can ask my tutor the all-important question of what the kanji for “salted” is! 🙂
Anyway, I have a few questions for fellow moms on my mind:
1) How many of you rise in the morning before your children? I have serious issues in this area, and since Jones’s naps have decreased to *ONE*, I have significantly less time during the day to do things without him at my heels (and recently whining to be held — separation anxiety begins!). Each night, I set my alarm to get up early, but when it goes off, I have no qualms about shutting it off and sleeping longer.. that is, until breakfast. Then, while we eat, I go over my daily guilt-complex in my mind as I remind myself that I’m never going to have time in the Bible more than once a week if I don’t get up earlier than Jones. I’ve become increasingly more convinced that I am a night-owl and not a morning person. Any moms struggled with this? Or struggle with guilt? Am I just trying to be something I’m not, or is this a legitimate issue? I’ve been thinking a lot about Proverbs 31 in respect to this: “She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens … Her lamp does not go out at night … She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”
2) For those of you who were able to breastfeed your babies, how did/do you feel about the weaning process? I’m uncertain as to how I feel about this with Jones right now, though I know that most people wean at about one year. On the one hand, he loves it and finds a lot of comfort in it, and I still enjoy it — at this point, it will be impossible to wean him without any frustration on his part. But on the other hand, I’m sort of ready for the next stage and being “free” — not having to come home early to feed him before bed, being able to be gone overnight (though, where would I go?), etc. Right now, he nurses between 2-4 times each day, at the very least at morning and at night. In any case, I’ve found that I don’t take well to well-ordered suggestions of baby websites regarding these issues: when we started solids, sometimes I’d feed him a tablespoon, sometimes three — I didn’t increase the food 1 teaspoon each time until we reached 4T. When Jones could stay awake longer, we just made an automatic jump to being awake 3 hours or 4 hours or whatever it was — I didn’t increase his waketime by 15 minutes each day until we reached the desired time. I just don’t work that way — and the same with substituting milk/whatever for a breastfeeding session. Therefore, I’m at a complete loss. I’ve found no advice in this realm that seems to fit my parenting style.
3) Spanking: yes or no? If yes, when did you deem it appropriate to begin using? I think that we’re going to spank, mainly because we need to do something, and Jones simply cannot understand “time out” or taking away privileges. And I’ve found that when I don’t have a plan of action for his misbehavior, I become livid and just “react,” which usually means getting angry, which I feel would be more harmful to him than a swat once in a while. But I’m just wondering what is appropriate, and when, etc. I’m reading some books on this issue but am wondering what other moms do.