The forecast says “cloudy,” but its been raining since 4a and doesn’t look like it will stop anytime soon. I’m gearing up for a morning inside with my little man (forts? trains? movies? drumming?) before taking off for the afternoon to read and enjoy some time away. I plan to do some thinking and praying about motherhood and what God asks of me — just in the last day or two, I’ve felt Him telling me that I’m doing okay.. or at the very least that there isn’t some huge error He’s being dying to bring up and just waiting for me to ask. I’ve felt another release into freedom. It’s quite nice.
So.. taking a break from the heavy ‘stuff’ of parenthood — I’ve always been infatuated with Myers-Briggs and personality types. Recently, I’ve been reading through some descriptions of myself and of Bryan to see if our tested types match who we really are — and just because its nice to have the little quirks of your life validated every once in a while. I always chuckle when I read and am reminded how utterly contrasted my husband and I are. Behold, your entertainment for a rainy day — our Keirsey personality types (a shoot-off of Myers-Briggs).
The Promoter (an Artisan personality type) — Bryan — ESTP
There are lots of Promoters, maybe ten or so percent of the population, and life is never dull around them. In a word, they are men and women of action. When a Promoter is present, things begin to happen: the lights come on, the music plays, the games begin. Clever and full of fun, Promoters live with a theatrical flourish which makes even the most routine events seem exciting. Not that they waste much time on routine events. In work and in play, Promoters demand new activities and new challenges. Bold and daring at heart, and ever-optimistic that things will go their way, Promoters will take tremendous risks to get what they want, and seem exhilarated by walking close to the edge of disaster. Because of this, they make the very best trouble-spot administrators and negotiators, and they can be outstanding entrepreneurs, able to swing deals and kick-start enterprises in a way no other type can.
Promoters also have a hearty appetite for the finer things of life, the best food, the best wine, expensive cars, and fashionable clothes. And they are extremely sophisticated in social circles, knowing many, many people by name, and knowing how to say just the right thing to most everyone they meet.
Charming, confident, and popular, Promoters delight their friends and investors with their endless supply of stories and jokes. At the same time, these smooth operators are usually something of a mystery to others. While they live in the moment and lend excitement – and unpredictability – to all their relationships, they rarely let anyone get really close to them. They have a low tolerance for authority and commitment, and are likely to leave situations where they are expected to toe the mark, or where they must play second fiddle. Promoters understand well the maxim, “He who travels fastest, travels alone,” although they are not likely to be lonely for long, since their boldness and sense of adventure tends to make them highly attractive to many other people.
Counselor (an Idealist personality type) — Jamie — INFJ
Counselors have an exceptionally strong desire to contribute to the welfare of others, and find great personal fulfillment interacting with people, nurturing their personal development, guiding them to realize their human potential. Although they are happy working at jobs (such as writing) that require solitude and close attention, Counselors do quite well with individuals or groups of people, provided that the personal interactions are not superficial, and that they find some quiet, private time every now and then to recharge their batteries. Counselors are both kind and positive in their handling of others; they are great listeners and seem naturally interested in helping people with their personal problems. Not usually visible leaders, Counselors prefer to work intensely with those close to them, especially on a one-to-one basis, quietly exerting their influence behind the scenes.
Counselors are scarce, little more than one percent of the population, and can be hard to get to know, since they tend not to share their innermost thoughts or their powerful emotional reactions except with their loved ones. They are highly private people, with an unusually rich, complicated inner life. Friends or colleagues who have known them for years may find sides emerging which come as a surprise. Not that Counselors are flighty or scattered; they value their integrity a great deal, but they have mysterious, intricately woven personalities which sometimes puzzle even them.
Counselors tend to work effectively in organizations. They value staff harmony and make every effort to help an organization run smoothly and pleasantly. They understand and use human systems creatively, and are good at consulting and cooperating with others. As employees or employers, Counselors are concerned with people’s feelings and are able to act as a barometer of the feelings within the organization.
Blessed with vivid imaginations, Counselors are often seen as the most poetical of all the types, and in fact they use a lot of poetic imagery in their everyday language. Their great talent for language-both written and spoken-is usually directed toward communicating with people in a personalized way. Counselors are highly intuitive and can recognize another’s emotions or intentions – good or evil – even before that person is aware of them. Counselors themselves can seldom tell how they came to read others’ feelings so keenly. This extreme sensitivity to others could very well be the basis of the Counselor’s remarkable ability to experience a whole array of psychic phenomena.
Well.. I don’t know about ‘psychic phenomena’, but I have had some interesting spiritual experiences that would fit the bill. Interesting, isn’t it? To read and think through these things? Also interesting to think that your interest level has much to do with your personality type — Bryan is amused by the thoughts, but doesn’t take them to heart and mull over them like I do. (Being married is so amazing. I love seeing our differences and learning more about each other and ourselves.)
Go check it out. You may have to do some clicking around under the “Four Temperaments” to find your Myers-Briggs. If you don’t know your Myers-Briggs, click here for an abbreviated (and free!) test. If you end up posting your results, comment and I’ll set up a link.