this originally started out as a comment to the last post, and as it grew, i thought that i might as well just make a new post. 🙂 not very coherent, just sharing some of my experience.
i think a lot of my issues with babywise were underlying heart issues that made it virtually impossible for me to “use” the book and not feel like a failure. i learned a TON about myself through it, though — things i had no idea of pre-Jones. i learned how highly i am motivated by guilt, fear, and perfectionism/performance. — so much so that a 45 minute nap wasn’t just a 45 minute nap, it was a signal to me of my failure of as a mom and my failure to follow the babywise standards, and my son was going to pay for it. 😦 it was most definitely an issue of my heart and my standards on myself that babywise just sort of fell into. i do have some other issues with the book, but not anything i would go on a crusade for, but perhaps just share if friends were interested. in the end, i realized that i wasn’t following the book because i wanted to or thought that the ideas were good, but because i felt somehow that i had to follow it to be a good mom, that it was the only way to mold a godly, well-behaved child, and that a lot of mom’s i knew were doing it, and so i should probably do it too. once i understood that my line of thinking was unhealthy, i realized that my natural tendencies and desires didn’t really line up at all with the book, and that i disagreed with some of it, making it something i no longer wanted to follow. i felt as if i were finally free to do what i wanted and felt necessary to do for Jones — i had the freedom from the beginning, but other issues kept me from understanding that. the babywise book was just a part of my story, and i definitely don’t blame the book or its standards for my problems with guilt, fear, and failure.
those are the thoughts. 🙂 if you have other thoughts, or have an experience with guilt, failure, or some other issue that has been brought to light via motherhood, please share! i am interested to hear..